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Driven



Joined: 26 Jun 2007
Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 5:07 pm    Post subject:  
Twickle Purple wrote:
I had no idea that broadcasting someones name and the contents of their private message is acceptable etiquette. Especially if the person who sent the message is a member of the forum.


That's not what I said. I said making suspicious messages public is a way of protecting the general membership from the bad guys, when the only response from a moderator would typically be to send the offending member a message and do nothing else. I've been on various bulletin boards and forums for 20+years, and that's how we weed them out. For example, I frequent car forums where members sometimes sell parts to each other. A message like that one - too good to be true, from someone you've never heard of - would have been instantly outed (and of course they're going to be a member of the forum - that's the only way they can send PM's).

I've seen a lot of con artists caught and ostracized that way, when it's discovered that several members have been ripped off. Sending a message to the moderator doesn't necessarily help, because there's a good chance the mod is only aware of the one incident and gives the offending user the benefit of the doubt. Even if the mod realizes what's happening and bans the user, he can just re-register with a slightly different name. Outing the contents of the message is a public warning and a very useful one.
Driven



Joined: 26 Jun 2007
Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 5:11 pm    Post subject:  
kristina b wrote:
Thanks, Driven and Marpusbean, that's how I feel. The internet is wonderful but I do think it pays to be cautious in certain areas. I've never joined a forum of any kind before and have been very touched by the kind responses to the few messages I've posted. I'm astonished to have provoked controversy already and to have inadvertantly breached etiquette, but am grateful for your support.

Kristina


You're welcome. Don't be surprised when some threads die out after a couple messages, and some keep going endlessly. I've seen a few last for years and thousands of pages.

There are a lot of passionate people with time to kill on the Internet Very Happy
Twickle Purple



Joined: 26 Jun 2006
Location: BC
Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:39 pm    Post subject:  
kristina b wrote:
I've never joined a forum of any kind before and have been very touched by the kind responses to the few messages I've posted. I'm astonished to have provoked controversy already and to have inadvertantly breached etiquette, but am grateful for your support.


You will find support here from ALL members. It's a very helpful group and there is a lot of knowledge shared within these threads.

My intention was not to call you out but to calm folks down from being hard on Lobster. It's unfortunate, but it is water under the bridge.

Best wishes,
TP

Driven wrote:
Twickle Purple wrote:
I had no idea that broadcasting someones name and the contents of their private message is acceptable etiquette. Especially if the person who sent the message is a member of the forum.


That's not what I said. I said making suspicious messages public is a way of protecting the general membership from the bad guys, when the only response from a moderator would typically be to send the offending member a message and do nothing else. I've been on various bulletin boards and forums for 20+years, and that's how we weed them out. For example, I frequent car forums where members sometimes sell parts to each other. A message like that one - too good to be true, from someone you've never heard of - would have been instantly outed (and of course they're going to be a member of the forum - that's the only way they can send PM's).
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I expressed a valid opinion, whether you agree with it or not is irrelevant to me -- it is my opinion. The rest is semantics, IMO.

Cheers,
TP
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Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't. – Eleanor Roosevelt
Driven



Joined: 26 Jun 2007
Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 7:37 pm    Post subject:  
Twickle Purple wrote:
I expressed a valid opinion, whether you agree with it or not is irrelevant to me -- it is my opinion. The rest is semantics, IMO.


Just calling you out on this: "I had no idea that broadcasting someones name and the contents of their private message is acceptable etiquette."

People don't just lay down and take it when you put words in their mouth just to get a jab in. I'm extremely careful with my posts, and having someone twist the meaning makes me livid. You'll get it right back at you every single time.
Twickle Purple



Joined: 26 Jun 2006
Location: BC
Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 11:56 pm    Post subject:  
No need to 'call me out' on anything dear, I didn't put a jab in at you. That would be malicious, something I am not.

Besides didn't you already respond to that (just above)?

Perhaps you are taking things a bit personally.
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Driven



Joined: 26 Jun 2007
Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 6:16 pm    Post subject:  
Twickle Purple wrote:
No need to 'call me out' on anything dear, I didn't put a jab in at you. That would be malicious, something I am not.

Besides didn't you already respond to that (just above)?

Perhaps you are taking things a bit personally.


The whole point is that you weren't expressing your opinion with that post, you were twisting the meaning of my post with a little snide sarcasm. You didn't seem to get that, so I clarified. Of course I took it personally, as anyone would.

Maybe you have the best intentions, in which case you have issues with finding the proper tone in your writing. I regret responding. I'll refrain from interaction with you in the future and consider it a lesson learned.
Twickle Purple



Joined: 26 Jun 2006
Location: BC
Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 7:37 pm    Post subject:  
Driven wrote:
Twickle Purple wrote:
No need to 'call me out' on anything dear, I didn't put a jab in at you. That would be malicious, something I am not.

Besides didn't you already respond to that (just above)?

Perhaps you are taking things a bit personally.


The whole point is that you weren't expressing your opinion with that post, you were twisting the meaning of my post with a little snide sarcasm. You didn't seem to get that, so I clarified. Of course I took it personally, as anyone would.

Maybe you have the best intentions, in which case you have issues with finding the proper tone in your writing. I regret responding. I'll refrain from interaction with you in the future and consider it a lesson learned.


Whatever works for you. I have no issue with my tone or writing style. I post here alot, which you may not have noticed, and I have stated, clearly, your opinion really does not matter to me when you speak against me.

You look for offense where there was none. So perhaps you should avoid my posts, as you seem very sensitive.

Best wishes finding what you need here on the forum. It is full of useful information and helpful people.

Cheers, TP

PS. I do have one suggestion, if you are open to it: when you have an issue with a member that you are unable to move beyond, you may want to consult with a moderator. Otherwise you should put it behind you and move on to the topic at hand and stop with the personal back and forth, which could best be suited to PMs. I will of course respond when my posts are quoted and addressed.
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Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't. – Eleanor Roosevelt
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