So depressing.....
Joined: 28 Aug 2006
| Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 2:36 am Post subject: So depressing..... | |
I just got off the phone with a good friend of mine. As usual her life is wonderful, kids are perfect and her health is great. Now don't get me wrong I am GLAD that she doesn't have any of the problems I have I would only wish rosacea on Osama Bin Laden! 
I have several health issues that seem to consume my life....and I have one Son that for the last years has been a nightmare.....so heartbreaking. I have had stress to the point where I am an emotional wreck....it literally has made me ill. We've done yrs of therapy and I have called every expert in the field across the country to get help/advice and so on. Only we know what's going on...and finally just recently I confirmed to my Mom the truth of the situation...so my parents are aware. They were stunned and heartbroken......my Mom kept saying "you never let on....how in the world have you been holding up".....and the future at this point with my own health illness + this is overwhelming at times. I haven't been calling anyone.....I wouldn't know where to start to tell them and explain it all....it would take weeks and weeks. I just don't have it in me and to be honest they don't want to know and I don't want them knowing at this time. My friend is going to tour Europe with her A+ perfect daughter.....her daughter has already gotten scholarship to school all paid. My sons will be lucky if they can even graduate HS....the second has ADD and gotten all D-'s with one F (in painting)! And I spent hours with him and the teachers and school trying to figure out anything to help him. He is a good boy but isn't following thru with his work. My spouse is gone out of town all the time and her's is always around. We have nothing in common....well people don't like to be around sick people or people who are needy and have lots of problems that can't be fixed with a simple solution. I know as I tried years back opening up when I 1st had rosacea and she only hung around for a few weeks then didn't talk to me for a yr. The only way things worked out was I stopped talking about my problems and hid my condition with makeup so I can't trust with all the other things that have gone wrong since then. Is anyone else experiencing this kind of situation?? I feel like crying....can't as it's bad for rosacea and I just had IPL!!!  _________________ Dx 1998 No meds Used low-dose accutane successfully |
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Joined: 13 Jan 2008
| Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 3:17 am Post subject: | |
That really sucks 
I believe all of us here experience the same feeling as you but just with different situation. I am very blessed to be able to have a normal life. However, my body is filled with sickness. I have a very bad case of sinus. 80% of the time I can only breathe with 1 nose because the other has traffic jam xD but I got used to it somehow. It gets better during summer but then rosacea gets worse. Not only that, I have lots of sketch mark -_- but luckily they are not located in visible spot like rosacea. Last week, my mom saw me come out of the bathroom and my face is all red because I was showered with hot water (very cold weather). She said what happened to my face. I told her I have rosacea (in another language) but she doesn't believe me. I explain countless of time but she just say I am to lazy to wash my face and that is why I get bad skin. I am not blaming her because rosacea is not exist in the country where I grew up before moved to U.S |
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Joined: 25 Sep 2007
| Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 6:48 am Post subject: | |
| well, you choosed to be sad. to be sad or happy it takes the same amout of work. to balance - in good situations look for ''bad'' sides, in bad situations look for good sides. dont get stuck in nothing, its just the regular ''man world'', where are raisings and lowtides, bets thing to do is not to do raisings and lowtides.
it's simple - you must change  |
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Location: new york
| Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 2:51 am Post subject: | |
| Hi Darlene,
You are dealing with a lot right now and it is very rough. It's hard sometimes to not compare ourselves to how others are doing especially when we are going through a difficult time. But that's just what you should try to avoid. We can always find someone who is doing better than us just as we can always find someone who is worse off. It will only succeed in magnifying all your dissatisfaction when comparing yourself to other people. You need to take happiness in the small steps you achieve. With yourself and your children. You are raising a family and loving them and caring for them and doing the best you can all the while dealing with your own health issues. That's a lot on your plate. I would take satisfaction from getting through each day, each milestone and all the small stuff in between. Happiness has to come from within and not from how much money you make, how many A's your kids get in school, how many fancy vacations you go on etc. Look at it as a challenge that not only you can handle but that you are excelling at. It is admirable that you are rising to the challenges you face each day and one day your children will be able to thank you for all you have done for them. I find it helpful to be able to confide in those closest to me when I am feeling overwhelmed with things. I think everyone needs to have a confidant or two in life to help them through the difficult times. And if your husband can't be there emotionally for you in that way try to find a trusted friend or family member who can. And it may help to be able to talk to a professional about your feelings and what you're going through. Hang in there Darlene. You are stronger than you think. I see your determination and strength in many of your posts. Big hugs! All the best, Melissa |
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